Archive for April, 2013

Body Language & Gesture (Part 1)

Just as the title says, here I will tell you some information about Body Language & Gesture.

Starts from head to toe. Let me tell you that I get this information from a book called: “Body Language and Gesture” by Allan & Barbara Pease.

By knowing the meaning of someone’s body language and gesture, you will be able to, at least, get a glimpse of what’s in side someone’s head in that moment.

I love this kind of knowledge. Once I read the book, I practice it. What I mean by practice is that I analyze other people’s behavior most of the time. I observe how people behave when they are having conversation with some people. I analyze my friend too, when they are talking to me. But the book is written in ‘Western culture’. It might not be 100% accurate if it is applied in some country with different culture, especially Eastern (Asian) country. Just as verbal language differs from culture to culture, so the non-verbal language may also differ. I will tell you which part doesn’t 100% accurate in Asian, and which is accurate. Because I am Asian my self, so I can tell.

If you love gaining information about Human Behavior, you should consider studying Psychology. I guarantee you will get most of the information & knowledge you seek about Human Behavior.

Here, I will post pieces of information I got from that book, and I will also add some information I gained as a… ‘practitioner’ of this knowledge.


— Albert Mehrabian found that : Total impact of a message is about –> 7 % verbal (words only) and 38 % vocal (including tone of voice, inflection and other sounds) and 55 % non-verbal.

— So, you have to REALLY mind your intonation and volume of voice you are using when you try to say something important to people! or they might miss-interpret it. Because people will remember most of ‘HOW YOU SAY IT’, rather than ‘WHAT YOU SAY’. Beware of HOW YOU SAY IT, because for certain people, it can be hurtful.

— All body language and gestures are related. It means that  in a certain situation, 2 or more non verbal language (body & gesture) could appear. And to analyze it, you have to understand the context of situation.

— You have to really look at the CONTEXT and SITUATION of where people showing a certain kind of non-verbal expression (body language & gesture). Make sure that it is not because of physical illness. For instance, someone curved his mouth down when talking to people, because he was born that way, with a curved-down mouth (not because he is angry or something). And another example, someone might crossed his arms in front of his/her body because of the weather is cold. (because crossing your arms in front of your body could indicate that you are defensive, or uncomfortable with the situation, such as with the person you are talking to.)


— Have you ever met someone new? And when you tried to get closer to her, she stepped back a few steps? It means that you have intrude her social space.

With a person you just met, You should maintain a proper space when you both stand. Because you haven’t known each other yet, you both still have ‘trust issue’ of each other. But when you have known the person long enough, the social space will become closer and closer. Just like when you are with your girlfriend or boyfriend, or husband and wive, they even sleep together.


Should you be put in a condition where you are standing so close with the people you just met and still have ‘trust issue’, A defensive stance will appear. One of you, or both of you will do ‘crossing arm’ stance, or another gestures that lets his arms cross in front of his body, that represent defensiveness, to protect your self.


UNLESS the person is supel and sociable and so extrovert, where he can easily get close to a person and make other people feel comfortable.

*Woops it’s night already. Time to hit the bed.



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